Dear Dad,

This was written in honor of Father’s Day. Every one has a different relationship with their father. None are any less valid. Even if you didn’t know your father, perhaps you can think of men in your life who provided the particular qualities you’d like to see in a father. You are lucky because you can choose any number of men with whom to emulate. You are truly at choice. My father died in 2007, but I still feel his presence in my life for good or ill. Just like when he was alive, I get to “glean the gems from the stones”.

Dear Dad,
It’s me, you youngest. I don’t think I turned out as you expected, but I don’t think you’re disappointed. I think if you had been raised in a different era and area, you might not been quite so set in your ways. My body is like Mom’s, but my mind is like yours. In some ways I followed your example, but in many more, I went my own way. Though, I think I’ve embarked on paths which you started me on whether you knew it or not. Those late night discussions in the Gulf Islands will always be remembered fondly. You taught me how to think and to ask questions.  These have allowed me to embrace concepts far beyond the ones you taught. I will always be grateful for that. Our relationship was sometimes a struggle, but you tried. I think none of us are free of issues. The true miracle is that we can glean a few gems among the stones. So thank you Dad. Be at peace. I know I will be.